Life choices
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Do you remember that one moment which changed everything?
Do you remember that question: “What would have happened if in that one moment I chose something else”?
We truly are all one step away from changing everything in our lives, just as we have been one step away so many times… Just as we are right now 1 step away.
When we think of someone completely changing their life, we may think of the person diagnosed with cancer that finds out they have 1 year left to live, or the person who looses everything and after being evicted from their own house, they remember their “why” and go onwards to change the world.
I don’t want diminish anyone’s struggles or circumstances, yet the truth is you can at any point begin to be who you want to be… No need for the deadly disease, no need for incredibly destructing event in your life.
You only need to CHOSE.
You can RIGHT NOW DECIDE that you are a new person, a different person, a better person and act like it.
As simplified as it may seem, we are in dire need of being reminded that the best time to start creating your life would have been 10 years ago.
The second best time is right now.
Asking what if
I belive it is a very common human experience to look back at some turning points and wondering what might have occurred.
I have been torn so many times about the thought of “what if it happened just a little different?”
It is completely normal to retrospect upon what could have been.
The key is NOT to get lost in that story, but rather learn and adapt to the present.
We are all guilty of wishing something would have occurred in a different way, or wondering what would happen in a different timeline at least from time to time.
And that is completely fine.
Actually it’s a great thing.
It showcases that you actually care about the consequences of your actions.
That is normal and it is completely human to do so.
It is completely acceptable to think hard and maybe try to envision your future.
The only problem is that no matter how hard we think about the future, we will never be able to truly know where the consequences of our choices will lead us.
You can try as hard as you wish to work for your perfect future, but it simply won’t look EXACTLY as you want it / imagine it.
'We are still masters of our fate. We still are captain of our souls. '” - Winston Churchill
Filtering choices
As I alluded to earlier, there’s plenty opportunities to go in the direction you wish.
The thing is that you can work as much as you’d like and you can run as much as you want, but if you don’t have a target to aim at, you are simply trying to find a needle in the haystack with your eyes closed and your hands tied while not even knowing you are looking for a needle.
For that we need to add filters to our lives.
We need to view every choice through the lens of the results that will come 2, 5, 10, 50 years in the future.
We need to know who we would like to be and how that person would act.
To make the right day by day choices in order to achieve the goal of a future we would like to live in, we have to set some goals, we need to delineate what we are looking for.
You need to be incredibly specific about how that future you want should look like.
Are you unsure what future you want?
You don’t even know where to start?
That’s fine.
You can start here:
If you really don’t have a clue about how you would like your future to look like, start from how you would hate your future to look like and build from there.
The only truly awful thing would be to wonder completely aimlessly, to never even consider what you would like to mold yourself into.
The best choice to make
You’re still torn on your choices, huh?
You still don’t know for sure which one to take and which one to leave.
I can not tell you what to do / choose.
The only thing I can actually do is remind you to look at what is important for YOU.
You see, there’s plenty of choices to be done at any moment.
The only question I would suggest you continuously ask on the daily for your own sake would be this:
“Is what I am about to do helping me stay true to who I want to be?”
We all have a “feeling” for how and who we should be.
We are all working towards being someone.
My only hope for you is that you make the right mistakes to stumble into the person you wish to become.